Hello friends: My 86 year old mother is very weak with COPD and is on oxygen periodically. The problem is my 58 year old brother lives with her and smokes in the house causing her great distress. I have confronted him in a gentlemanly way with the harms of second hand smoke yet after years he continues with his addictive abuse. My mom cant really defend herself, she just wants peace among children. She becomes irritated when I tell her what he is doing to her and I dont like to see her agitated. However, mu conscience will not allow me to be quiet when I hear her struggle to get a breath and is always hacking and wheezing. When he is out f the house (which is very infrequent, he rarely works) her mind and lungs clear up and she becomes much more healthy.
She does not wish for him to leave. It is a very codependent relationship. Any thoughts/