Second miscarriage

I just experienced a second miscarriage. a few weeks ago, I was having cramps, so I went to go check on the baby. there was heartbeat. however, over the weekend, I had more pains and I was bleeding and I went to go check on the baby, and there was no longer a heartbeat. this happened to me last year as well. I am very sadden and I am confused. I am a healthy person (I feel like) and I am active so for this to happen back-to-back it just does not make sense to me. I want a sibling for my little one and I am getting older and so is my little one. the age gap (if I have another baby) it just spreading further apart and I just want to cry. each pregnancy, the baby had a heartbeat, so I am hoping those two are in Heaven? I did give the babies each a name in hopes of seeing them again one day. is my little one considered a big sibling to the babies that miscarried?

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I’m so sorry to hear that. I will be praying for you and your family.

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Sorry for both your losses.

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Sorry for your loss, but don’t give into despair !

My wife had three miscarriages before giving birth to our full term daughter, over 46 years ago…

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My heart goes out to who have suffered a miscarriage or a stillborn child.
Many years ago, my son and his wife had a child stillborn only days away from the due date.
The only thing we can say is that there must be a reason for it.
But is always hard to endure.
:pray: :pray: :pray: :pray: :pray:

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My prayers going out for you.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I have had at least one possibly two miscarriages. I know a bit of that unbearable pain. Some advice, reach out to your diocese NFP program director. They may help you troubleshoot and perhaps refer you to a pro-life doctor if need be.

I’d think so. How old is your daughter? Does she know about the ones you have lost? Perhaps you can add them by name to your family prayers?

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I am sorry to hear that. I don’t know why this has happened but as hard as it is now, one day you will be able to see and understand why. I really really wish I could hug you and I will pray for you and your family

I’m sorry this happened to you. It happened to my wife mayyears ago and she was fit and healthy. We had children since so don’t give up.

There is a lovely prayer written by Mother Angelica about the miscarried child, it makes me cry when I read it so I will post a link instead of putting it here so you don’t have to read it if you don’t want to.

:purple_heart: :green_heart: :heart: :brown_heart: :yellow_heart:

Mother Angelica Prayer.

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I am sorry for your loss, may the little one rest in peace. My wife’s first pregnancy ended in miscarriage. Unfortunately, there is little to nothing a woman can do to prevent miscarriage. It’s not your fault, you are doing nothing wrong.

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Miscarriages are always horrible. May the Lord wrap you and your little one in his Loving Arms and bring you both comfort and hope.

I am sure sure your two little ones are in heaven. Their Guardian Angels are caring for them and teaching them their prayers, and they are growing up in the best place we can imagine, visiting with and calling all the saints by name. One day we will all be together. Until then we hope and pray.

I’m very very sorry for you loses. I know the pain, and it really hurts, because my wife and I lost our child last January due to a miscarriage.

There is no doubt your little ones are in heaven. Life begins at conception, so it is very right and fitting to give them names even if they did not make it to full term. We chose a neutral name to begin with on the day of the miscarriage, Francis. Then as my wife was sitting on our couch sobbing and crying out to God that she just wanted to know if it was a boy or girl, something incredible happened later that day, a miracle. Yes, a lamp we had bought for our babies nursery was unplugged, as I had just finished putting the shade on it and stepped back to look at it, it lit up bright pink, not once, but twice, and we both saw it. We went from sorrowful to instant joy. We knew then by the grace of God the child we lost was a baby girl, then we gave her a complete name, Katie Francis.

There is not a day that goes by that she is not a part of our lives, There have been many other miracles since then. You see, God is the God of the living, and He does but build walls between those were love, no matter the age, but rather He builds bridges with His infinite love.

So as a father who feels your pain, please please please give your two children a name and never forget them, not even for a day as they will always be with you interceding for you and your family so that one day they will be reunited with their mom and dad. While losing our child was the greatest pain I’ve ever felt, just having her in our life is the greatest joy we have ever known. God along with our Blessed Mother know the pain of losing a child, but they also know the flip side to that pain, the joy of eternal life. Your children know that joy too!!!

May God bless and comfort you.

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I’m so, so sorry for your heartbreak. I lost my first, and yes, she has a name and is the big sister of our second. Your children, all of your children, are part of your family, just like your parents will still be a part of your family when they pass away. Since our first child died, we have continued to pray for her at every grace and every bedtime prayer, and our living daughter will be taught to pray to her older sister as our family’s special saint in heaven.

Our living child is a preemie, and our Protestant Christian in-laws were very kind to help us out and get some clothes for her when she was born not only early, but also very growth-restricted. One of the footies said, “Little Sister” on it. They apologized and explained the pickings were slim for preemies. My husband said, “Well, it’s true, she is a little sister!” His mother replied doubtfully, “I guess…” Sigh. One of the nice things about being Catholic is that you can follow the logical consequences of the Church’s teachings on life and fully acknowledge the miscarried children as a part of your family.

What’s more, your miscarried children, like the living one, existed in the heart of God since before time began, and were ensouled and fully human at the moment of conception. When we follow the logic of the Church’s teachings, the orthodox teachings of the Saints, and Scripture, we can know they have gone back to God and can’t be anywhere else.

I pray God will give you peace, sister. ::hugs::

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