Are there any couples out there that have suffered from secondary infertility? Meaning at least 3 years of not being able to conceive another child? And if so, did you need to practice NFP to avoid pregnancy because of a medical condition or medication that would be dangerous if conception occurred? How did you wrap your head and heart around NFP when your heart was still aching for another child and you knew the likelihood of pregnancy was slim? Didn’t you feel as if you were trying to conceive, charting your cycles, mucous, ovulation without the reward of pregnancy? How did you stick to it if you really wanted another child? My husband and are stuck between our beliefs, the dangers of my medication and our desire for another baby. The clock is ticking and we’re watching our chances for another child disappear.
At the same time, I’m ready to move on and end the months and years of dashed hopes. I want there to be a way that I no longer need to focus on my fertility and can live my life not thinking about my cycle anymore. How do I recover from my infertility if NFP is going to cause me to continuously focus on my fertility? I have probably a 2% chance of pregnancy. Is it irresponsible to not practice NFP while taking a medication that causes birth defects in the first trimester? My desire is to move on from this time in my life and focus on the children God has given me. How can I do that while practicing NFP and worrying about conception on this medication? Sterilization would allow me to move on. NFP will be like rubbing my face in everything I can’t have. I do not think I will be successful at it. My husband won’t agree to sterilization. I agree with our core beliefs on birth control but my life has placed me in these difficult circumstances.
If you have experienced something similar, can you please tell me how you coped? How long did you practice NFP for and were you successful? Did the burden of infertility become less over time? Were you able to move on without ever conceiving another child?