Hi there. My what a pickle some people put themselves into.
My best friend got married about 8 months ago. She was a single parent for 7 years (kid out of wedlock) and then found this man who was her life. Well come to find out, she wasn’t his life. He never once cheated on her, but it wasn’t the life she wanted. He would spend a LOT of time on the computer and do things that she didn’t approve (smoked weed).
Thing is, she knew he did these things before they got married.
So a few months ago, she got pregnant. He was so happy and wanted to change his life.
Well they ended up splitting up for a few weeks. I think he got angry because he was going through withdraw.
Okay so she ended up having a miscarriage, it was all very sad. Very devasting for her. More so for him, wanna know why? She finally told him the baby wasn’t his.
Okay so as her best friend I was furious. I knew she was hanging out with this other guy (a guy we all used to be friends with when we were teens), she said she was only friends with him.
I believed her, because I am naive to think she would have done such a thing.
So when she finally told me the truth I told her what I thought, straight from my heart and I believe from the Holy Spirit.
I said “I do not approve of that relationship”. She was staying with him after her and her husband separated. She was contemplating going back to her husband.
I said" I think you need to go back to your husband if he will be so kind as to take you. I think you make a horrible mistake. You said for better and for worse. No matter what problems you were having, nothing gave you the right to committ adultery. That is what you did, you and your lover committed adultery. He is not out of the water either, no he’s not. He should have known better. You both used to go to church (not Catholic) you know the Ten Commandments"
She went back to her husband but they were still considering divorce because it wasn’t easy.
I said “Did you get married to have an easy life? Do you seriously think the marriage is easy? Well you are WRONG, it’s the hardest thing in the world. To give yourself completely to another person. I will love you no matter what you choose, because that’s what I do. BUT I believe you both need to work on your marriage. Find counseling and keep the vows you made”.
There was much more and it was very heartfelt.
As of now, still only 3 weeks later they are workign on it. And going to see what comes.
Tell your friend the truth. Don’t let her be a mistress again. If it ends your friendship, you apparently weren’t as good of friends as you thought.