My husband and I are converts to Anglicanism. We were both raised baptist. Wow - what a switch. I feel very much that I’m still trying to wrap my head around so much. This change has been in the last year. It’s funny to me that when I was baptist I felt that I knew “everything” about my faith. Now I feel as though I know nothing - like I’m starting all over! Our little one (he’s nearly 4) is not yet baptized. We were just confirmed this past December. We decided to wait on baptizing him considering we’re having a new baby end of June/early July. If we follow through with the baptisms, we will do them together.
Recently we became godparents to a baby of some friends. I admit that we were ignorant of the ceremony going into it and neither one of us had ever seen an infant baptism before. We both went away from it feeling confused. The one thing that was confusing to us is that my husband (the godfather) answered questions for the baby being baptized. Meaning the priest would ask questions directed specifically to the baby, like will you renounce satan blah blah blah and some other things that would profess belief in christianity (sorry - I can’t remember the exact questions now). He felt a bit uncomfortable professing beliefs for someone else. I mean, baby is too little to have beliefs on these things yet. So I guess I’m trying to wrap my brain around this. And I would bet the fundamentalist/evangelical lens that I grew up with is partly getting in my way so I need some help.
I guess I was confused because my understanding is that baptism is a sacrament whereby grace is imparted to a baby and not based on belief. And yet during the ceremony we were responding that she believes certain things. So that’s got me scratching my head a bit!
Also, my particular parenting style lends me to try to be as respectful as possible to my child in the way that I raise him. It feels in my current understanding at least disrespectful to my child to have someone else speak for him and say that he believes things that he is simply too young to believe. Perhaps I still don’t fully understand infant baptism as this is obviously a big no no in the baptist faith and that’s what I was brought up and indoctrinated in. So, needless to say, this is kind of a hang up for me right now. Please know that I’m not asking in order to judge. We’re really happy with our conversion to Anglicanism and feel that overall it’s much more what we believe, but I’m struggling with this. I don’t want to baptize our child and new little one without having hammered this out. I do plan to go to our priest for more information, but I’d love to hear from parents, especially if there’s parents on this forum who practice a more gentle style of parenting. Please help me understand! Thank you.