I’m in a situation where I’m not sure if I’m being too hard and selective or if my doubts are justified. Been dating an older gentlemen for almost a year now, actually. Very respectful, family man, successful, kind, generous, great values…everything I am seeking in a partner character wise (I don’t care of the physical: ethnicity, height, etc). I’ve always been an equal opportunity dater if the gentlemen meets the above requirements. So that all sounds great but he is not a Catholic, or even Christian man. In fact he knows little to nothing about God or faith, which saddens me greatly actually. I can’t imagine going through my entire life with a potential husband whom–would go to church with me for the sake of making me happy–but wouldn’t be “into it”. So I’m troubled. I don’t know if I should try to convert this man or if I am wasting my time…I certainly don’t want to shove religion down someone’s throat, but I love my faith deeply and definitely try to educate him on things, but this man follows science almost blindly that it is frustrating. I know relationships are difficult as it is in the day and age, so part of me thinks I am being too harsh, but the other part no so much. I am just scared of making a mistake either way.
Yes, I’m aware people have worse problems, but this forum has been so helpful to me over the years and truly my only outlet where I can get insightful Christian feedback. Los Angeles isnt the most conservative State, unfortunately.
It astonishes me how men (mid-life crisis?) openly admit during charity events or at social gatherings that they have a mistress or girlfriend on the side. Makes me sick really. They express it so openly and even exchange stories. They seem shocked when ***I’m ***offended, so I know good men are hard to find.
Is there anyone involved in an interfaith relationship/marriage (or lack therefore) that can provide advice? I’m still in my 20s so I value the wisdom that comes with age. Hopefully it can help me. Even prayers at this point. I just don’t like wasting people’s time when both parties could just move on…or advance. When I talk about God and how much I love Him, my partner doesn’t understand. It’s not his fault, I suppose. You can’t blame someone who was never taught these things but at times I don’t know if he is that open to learn. Stubborn older men tend to not change. IDK…