I have followed this thread with interest because my brother is also a hermit attached to an order or association of hermits, with a spiritual director and lifeplan approved by the local bishop. He has not requested the accommodation permitted in this story because until now he has not needed it, living fairly close to the local parish. however I do visit another hermitage in my area where this special permission is granted during times when a priest is not in residence, because there are some laypersons who live there as hermits fulltime (with all the orthodox permissions and so forth).
I have not commented because the entire tone has been so legalistic and uncharitable, and to me, has become the perfect textbook example of this forum’s greatest failing: the tendency to answer questions by a collection of random quotes from Church documents.
that the hermit in question should have first been troubled by this unwarranted interference in her life, and second be forced to defend herself, is shocking, and I applaud her graciousness and humility in giving the explanation she has, which is an education, I am sure, for everyone here, about a little-known aspect of spiritual life.
May I suggest to forum members myself included, as a rule for future discussions, unless you are in a capacity to be an expert in the field you are discussing do not issue blanket declarations about Church teaching and discipline. Yes, by all means, quote sources whenever possible, but do not presume, because you were able to navigate a document and find a relevant paragraph, that makes you an expert on the topic.
For instance, if you are not in charge of or responsible for the conduct of liturgical rites in your parish or diocese, you are not an expert, and reading the GIRM does not make you one.
If you are not a liturgical musician, you are not an expert.
If you have not been involved in RCIA, been instructed in the rites and their preparation, and in the catechetical process, you are not an expert.
If you are not yourself spiritually mature and under direction, you are not qualified to give spiritual counsel to others, except in the way of sharing your own experience humbly or quoting wisdom of spiritual directors.
Just because you read an article critiquing this or that scripture translation, you are not an expert. If that is not your area of academic and professional concentration, do not presume to be one.