How many of us really feel others pain? (oops I think I did a similar thread last week. Who me, repeating myself?)
I’m suggesting that self-empathy is more common than empathy for others.
When my mother died of lung cancer, over a 6 month period, how could I know what was going through her mind? it must have been absolutely terrifying. And me at age 33, more concerned about losing a mother who was only 66, than her pain.
When we really achieve empathy, we can gain release from our own problems. Even though temporary. When we realise what others are going through, it can make our problems seem insignificant or less severe anyway.
I read in the paper today that a 36 year Aussie pro golfer will stop chemo and accept palliative care for his blood cancer. He has 2 young girls. Only 36. How sad. I’m lucky to have made it to 60. We cant imagine how terrifying a terminal illness verdict can be to hear.
I’m the first to admit I suffer from self-empathy . I was never cut out to be a tough guy or tough person for that matter. But I will have to toughen up sooner or later as life’s challenges approach.
I just hope I can notice others’ pain and be more supportive than I usually am.