As some of you may, or may not, have read my other posts I’ve previously made about my relationship, I need help again.
A little background is… I’m dating someone that is illegally here in the United States, she’s from Mexico. She has brought me back to my faith, I cannot thank her enough for that. We’ve been together for a little over 10 months now and I really thought I could see myself marrying this girl up until about a week ago when all of a sudden someone suggested to me that she was only using me for a U.S. citizenship.
I have thought more and more about what he said and the reasons he gave (he knows both of us well). I really have got this stuck in my head that she is just using me, and it’s making the relationship fall apart, and she says she isn’t, I want to trust her but it’s so difficult when the reasons that she IS using me outweigh the reasons she ISN’T using me.
The first and foremost reason I believe she is using me is the fact that she hasn’t learned a lick of English in the 10+ months we have been together. Although, I’m greatful that I have had the opportunity to learn Spanish but it’s really difficult that the COUNTLESS times I have asked her to learn English and the COUNTLESS times she has promised me she would, have all failed.
The other reason is the fact that ever since then I’ve mentioned the fact that she could possibly be using me, she has ceased talking to me, she won’t just tell me something out of the blue, I have to pry it out of her.
Other than these 2 main reasons, this girl is perfect for me, she doesn’t do drugs, is willing to work, doesn’t care about money, agrees with every church teaching, wants a large family, the list goes on. But the fact that I think she’s using me is really getting to me, it’s like… maybe she’s so perfect just because she is wanting something from me… It’s difficult and complicated, if anyone has any advice I would love to hear it. Thanks and God bless!