[quote=StFrancis2]This is a 3 part question:
I have heard that procreation is a central theme of a Catholic marriage, but some elderly couples are not capable of conceiving kids. Should they marry or live as brother and sister unmarried? (I once heard that the church discourages marriages of older couples who are incapable of having children or are incapable of a sexual relationship.)
If, during a marriage, the wife has a hysterectomy for medical reasons, and can no longer conceive, then should marital relations be discontinued?
Is consummation of a marriage required by the Church to validate the marriage?
It is not sinful for a married couple to rejoice and share the sexual aspect of their marriage, whether they are able to conceive or not. You should not discontinue marital relations as long as both spouses are willing partners, and respect one another
Relax and rejoice in your marriage. Love making is a gift from God. With Jesus as the center of your vocation, you will have many ways to be fruitful, regardless of your ability to conceive children. Be open to the promptings of the Holy Spirit, calling you to fruitfullness. You can be open to life, no matter what your medical records say about your ability to conceive. Being open to life takes many forms. In what ways are you being called to be fruitful and open to life? Are you feeling called to be more active at your parish? To share your faith with friends? Some couples even foster children or become active in the pro-life movement. Perhaps your fruitfulness is simply to help each other grow closer to God, to help each other reach heaven. You and your wife are on a beautiful path. God bless you and your marriage.
Age should not play a factor in being intimate with your spouse. It is the culture of death that says only the young and perfect 10 seductive mynx is worthy of sex, to be used as a cheap thrill, for lust and to objectify. God created sex for a much greater purpose, it is a gift to marriage.
Love, laugh, share tears and joy and rejoice that God created you to be as one for the rest of your lives!