Sex and marriage and where it is


#1

Where should we place sex in our lives? Do we fear it, love it or respect it? Or all of the above… Or something else entirely?


#2

I’m not ready for kids and commitment. :grimacing:

IT SHOULD BE FEARED!


#3

It’s a part of marriage, a %, not all or most important in marriage. It has it’s place but we are married outside of the bedroom and that is just as important.


#4

My husband died and sex is so far down my priority list at this point in my life it’s fallen off the edge of the flat earth map. And i hope it stays gone because I have other things to do with my life. I wasted too much of my life on sex and relationships as it was (marriage aside).


#5

Sex is wonderful and beautiful within a marriage between one man and one woman. It is not licit in any other condition. God created the sexes, male and female, and sex itself.
It is really not that difficult to understand this.


#6

Just to add that he created sex so that a married couple could join with him in creating new life. When you marry you accept that responsibility.


#7

I hate it with all my heart.


#8

We fear it because it easily can get out of control.

We love it because God made it a good, and it begets life and unity with spouses.

We respect it because it must bring serious demands and love of chastity.


#9

You hate sex? Why? It is a very good thing, created by God and to be used as he has told us.


#10

Well, that’s a weird thing to say. Not to mention problematic for a Christian. You telling God His design is flawed, brah?


#11

No. I just don’t like and want nothing to do with it.


#12

Why “don’t you like it”? What does that mean? Are you asexual?


#13

Stop asking these questions.


#14

But it’s a Serious Question. :wink:

I kid, I kid. I didn’t mean to pry, I just figured you were open to discussing it since you posted about it.


#15

Anyway, sex is great. It brings the spouses together, and it brings new life into the world. It’s also a lot of fun, and there’s nothing wrong with acknowledging that. It just needs to be in the right context, that’s all.


#16

Why bring it up, then?


#17

Exactly right. The only problem that can creep in is if it becomes one-sided or the focus of the relationship. It complements all the other areas of their marriage.


#18

Thank you all x


#19

A legitimate response!

Again, a position one is entitled to.

It must be remembered that sex is going to mean something different to different persons. 10% of marriages are asexual, the couple has no interest. That is not wrong, it is just a preference. And there are those for whom it is their passion, their favorite activity; again a position perfectly acceptable. And it means different things to different people at different ages. I think the expression of our sexuality, is that which God has the most mercy and understanding for in HIS judgment of how we approach/use it in our lifetimes.


#21

Sex brings us more closer to animal life, than the angels life. And even though after the creation God said, “It is not good for man to be alone,” after the redemption, He said “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” (1 Co 7:1)


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