Hello, my name is Epistemes, and I’m a sex addict.
Does that frighten you? I hope that it doesn’t because I, like my brothers and sisters who struggle with others addictions, such alcohol and narcotics, have admitted my problem and am hoping and praying for recovery.
Being a sex addict, and attending Sexaholics Anonymous meetings, is a huge stigma in today’s society. It’s almost generally more acceptable for people to be recovering alcoholics or drug-users than sex addicts since people tend to draw the worst conclusions about people who suffer and are recovering from this addiction, such as “child molester” or “rapist.” This affects the suffering soul very deeply since a person who is receiving help and undergoing recovery is already ashamed of the position that his/her actions have place him/her in. The hardest step in seeking therapy is admitting “Yes, I have a problem” and enduring the burden and stigma of that realization.
Yes, there are addicts who do/have molested children, but they want to stop. They feel so much pain for what they’ve done. Yes, there are addicts who have raped or thought about it, but they too have come forward and repented.
We’re human just like you, and like other people, we lack integration which is the root of our sins and misbehaviors. Attending SA is our attempt to find integration, and we only want to feel loved and accepted in spite of all the wrong we’ve done and hurt we’ve caused. We want to love like other people, having hit rock bottom due to lust. It’s a difficult journey, though, because every person we meet involves some element of our sexuality, a sexuality which has, for the longest time, been misused and corrupted. Like a slow drip on a stone, there’s been a great deal of erosion, but we’re now working to patch and seal the cracks.
Please keep all sex addicts in your prayers, especially those who suffer but are unwilling to seek help or do not know where to go for help.