[quote="Scott_D, post:1, topic:211507"]
My wife and I have 6 kids. She is 49 and has been told that another pregnancy would be a "death sentence." She recently was pregnant and then miscarried. She is in pre-menopause as well. She was told by a deacon that we could be active sexually without me climaxing, but stopping beforehand. Not to be lewd, but we were engaged in foreplay, which led to her climaxing, but we stopped there. What exactly is Church teaching on this. Are we in the state of mortal sin now?
Thanks brothers and sisters
I'll ask for your pardon for making this sound well, crude but I think it's the best way to illustrate the point....
Why not just pull out before you finish the deed?
Gen 38:8 Juda, therefore, said to Onan his son: Go in to thy brother's wife and marry her, that thou mayst raise seed to thy brother.
Gen 38:9 He knowing that the children should not be his, when he went in to his brother's wife, he spilled his seed upon the ground, lest children should be born in his brother's name.
Gen 38:10 And therefore the Lord slew him, because he did a detestable thing:
I'm not sure this Deacon's advice sounds any better than Onan's idea off hand. Maybe somehow he knoows something I don't, that's certainly possible. But to me, I'm seeing this more in light of being a contraceptive act.