Totally agree with this comment…Plus - It can be kind of hard to offer too much advice based on a summary of a conversation we were not privy to.
Do keep her in your prayers and continue to be her friend…and like she said…don’t argue about it with her. Just love her.
As for her assertion that “all one has to do is be a good person and not hurt anyone and that’s all that God wants”. Well, being a good person and not hurting anyone are in themselves admirable objectives. We believe the Church teaches us precisely how to go about acheiving these things. If the conversation were to continue, you could point out that abortion and “not hurting anyone” are mutually exclusive actions. You could also point out the overwhelming evidence that now exists to show that people who have sex before marriage and/or cohabitate are more likely to get divorced, more likely to be depressed, more likely to catch STDs, etc.
Also agree with this…
I would add that your friend’s comment (bolded above) is something I would readily agree with her on. This can offer an opening for discussion.
The thing is - what constitutes a “good person” in the eyes of God?
She suggests that at least part of this is to “not hurt anyone”. Again - a very true and admirable point - but as underacloud points out…not hurting someone and abortion are mutually exclusive.
All of that said…I think you did fine and now the thing is to be her friend.
I don’t know if any of this qualifies as “words of wisdom”…but I dare say that there are many many Catholic families who have members believing strange things and making poor choices. The question we must ask ourselves is - are we going to take a hard line stand with these family members or are we going to try to keep on loving them as best we can.
I don’t mean that they should not know our (the Church’s) views on the matters. But what are the relative advantages of “cutting them off” versus keeping in touch?
In my own family I have seen both and I can tell you that the former can have disastrous results while the latter (while often more painful) at least offers a greater chance of repentance down the road because communication was kept open and Love given.
God is extremely patient with us…staying near even as we commit horrible sins…Should we not be equally patient with our friends and family as God is with us?
Sorry if the above is a bit off topic…but maybe it helps a little