Ok, here is a softball.
My sister-in-law keeps buying my daughter (4 y old) shoes.
Not cheap shoes, but the $50 mall shoes, I am guessing an average one or two pairs per month.
I’m not sure of her finances but she has had credit card debt problems in the past and I surmise it is likely that she and her husband probably do not have extra cash to easily afford this.
I don’t ask for them. I thank her for the gift and do not offer reimbursement. Heaven knows a 4y old doesn’t need very many shoes. Options:
Say thanks but we don’t want them?
Just keep taking them?
Pay for them? (I don’t want to encourage this behavior).
I hope someone can provide me appropriate amounts of tact and spine.