I have a problem that I need to address with my 16 year old niece. Two Sundays ago she was at my house for a BBQ and stole a bottle of Vodka from my cabinet. The next day she took
it to a friends house and got very drunk. The friends brought her home to her Grandmom’s house were she lives with her Dad and left her on the front lawn. Someone called the police when they saw her, so they came and brought her to her door. She told Grandmom and Dad that she wasn’t drinking and that some boy gave her a soda and maybe there was something in the soda. They believed her and said that her wasn’t allowed to hang with this friend again.
It wasn’t until her friend called and told Grandmom the truth about what my niece had done and where she got the vodka that they called me to ask if the bottle was missing. Of course it was.
As far as I can tell very little action is being taken to deal with this very serious matter and I feel I must step in. I was told that my Niece would call and apologize. It’s been 2 days now, no apology. I called to see what actions are being taken and was told by Grandmom that her father just doesn’t know what to do. When I asked about the apology, Grandmom said that she would make her come to the phone while I waited. I said no, that she is a big girl and that she needs to do this on her own and that includes dialing the phone to call me at the very least. Grandmom also said that she would make her go to Confession this Saturday. But because she went up to Holy Communion last Sunday, and had not been to Confession for this incident, I think she is not sincere about her faith and may not even confess this sin if forced to go. I really see that she has been snowing everyone with this good-girl behavior.
I am devastated by her actions, I have done so many things for her, attending her plays, taking her on trips, taking her to mass, weedends at my house etc. I feel like I don’t even know her.
I’m her God-mother and I care very much about the state of her soul, I don’t want to misguide her or overlook her lying. Should she be forced to go to Confession ? What can I do for this poor child?