My mother and father were married for over 30 years. My Dad then had an affair with a lady (let’s call her “Z” for this question). Dad continued his relationship with Z and then divorced my Mom under civil law, and married Z under civil law. The annulment was propely denied (praise God).
Now, I am in the position of constantly trying to figure out what the right thing to do is with respect to my Dad and Z. It is my understanding that we should not acknowledge his marriage to Z, which we have clearly done (with much pain). The question I have, though, is a bit more difficult. Is it proper to allow/invite Z to attend the sacraments of my children (1st communion of our oldest coming this May)? Obviously it will bother my Mom who will also be attending, but I want to know, putting aside everyone’s interests (Mine, wife’s, Dad’s, Z’s, and Mom’s), bottom line - what is the RIGHT thing to do.
Your thoughts are very much appreciated.