[quote="BlueEyedLady, post:11, topic:292743"]
As someone who was raised by a single mom I find this sad. My mother's male friends made a huge impact on me growing up. One was a college professor. He made me the deal that for every "chapter book" I read he would buy me two more. One that I got to pick and one that he would pick for me. He said that even if I never read his choices it was good to have the option. Another was a distant cousin. He owned tons of horses and taught me how to ride and take care of them. Another saw me wearing too much makeup when I was about 11 and had a talk with me that I really needed, but had no father to give it. He talked to me about natural beauty, what messages I was sending boys, and what I deserved to be valued for. The next day he took me to the makeup counter at the mall for a more natural and age appropriate makeover. Another taught me about fine cheeses and how to play chess, which was a really cool experience for a 12 year old girl.
These are just a few examples of men who made a difference in my life during the important developmental years. My mom didn't hand me off to strangers on a whim. She knew these men, spent lots of time with them, and supervised them around me for a long time before any overnight visits were allowed. She also starting teaching me early on about good touching, bad touching, anatomical words for private parts, and what to do if someone makes me uncomfortable. She continued these talks until I went to college. What did these adult and sometimes unmarried men want with a young girl? Probably just to make a difference in her life.
In an age where so many grow up without fathers its important that other men are willing to step up and be there for kids, while giving them some life experience and knowledge at the same time. Men and women are so different, and as wonderful as my mother was she could never be a man.
I don't like how our society tends to view men who have a talent with kids as a threat. Yes, there are a few evil men (and women) out there who would hurt children. But by and large men are good, and time spent with them is valuable and important.
I think that we need more male daycare workers, teachers, and nurses, especially in children's wards. I don't like how we scare good and loving men away from those positions with so much suspicion and hostility.
with all due respect, you have been very fortunate in your life. Yes, it is tough to be a single parent, get a break to get away and have good mentors for your children. But as the question was asked and presented, there are many red flags here and more often these types of situations lead to some kind life long scars for the children. I am sure that is what the single parents thought of Jerry Sandusky. Yes it is sad to view others this way but it is better to err on the cautious side than to have your child scared for life. Since the priest sex scandals, at least in my archdiocese, anyone who works with children in Catholic churches and schools must attend a seminar called "protecting God's children". This 2 hour seminar talks about these types of situations and NOT allowing our children to go off and become involved with seemingly well meaning adults along. Yes there are too many children that need good mentors of the opposite sex, but that is different than letting your young daughters spend a week alone with a single male adult. There are many ways to have good mentors for children missing a parent but this situation as presented does not sound like it. That may seem close minded based on your life experiences but there are too many out there with life long scars that would say otherwise.