As some of you may know from previous threads, I have a friend whom I have really liked ever since I met her almost five years ago. After talking with her awhile back, I found out that she does not plan on dating until she is done with school and ready to look into marriage, which is sort of how I feel, so it’s not so bad.
Now to the present - she just graduated high school and I have been thinking more and more about my future (I’m going to be a junior in college). I have, for the last four or five years, been planning on waiting for this girl because I am that crazy about her, but because I’m starting to think more heavily about my life now and after college, I am realizing that I may be wasting my time.
I do not plan on asking her to start dating. We’re not considering marriage at this point, plus she’s really independent and likes being single right now. However, I am wondering if it may be prudent to ask her if there’s any chance we will be more than friends in the future. I feel like I could save myself a lot of heartache if I just get this out of the way now.
Where I run into problems is that right now things are going pretty well between us, but we very recently got over some big bumps in our friendship - we almost stopped being friends completely. If I decide to talk to her about this, I wonder if I should first work on rebuilding our friendship first or if this is actually a perfect time because we won’t work to rebuild our friendship only to have it potentially get messed up later if she says she doesn’t want to be more than friends. Plus, she is only 18 and I feel like girls are not even beginning to think about dating / marriage at that age so it could be really awkward or scare her away.
Any advice? Sorry for the long thread - I trimmed it down but there’s still a lot.