An acquaintance of mine was recently killed in an automobile accident. There is going a memorial service at the funeral home later this week. There are no plans for a formal church funeral. My friend was not Catholic, and I don’t think she attended any other type of church, either.
At the time of her death, my friend was living an active homosexual life and her “partner” was also killed in the accident. The memorial service at the funeral home is going to be held jointly for both women, and will likely be conducted by a gay minister from a gay-friendly church of some sort. There will probably be many actively homosexual persons in attendance as well. Here is my question. As a devout, practicing Catholic, should I attend this service? I would like to be there as a sign of concern and respect for my departed friend, but at the same time I don’t feel it appropriate to participate in activities that might celebrate or affirm my friend or her deceased partner (or others in attendance) in their homosexual “lifestyles.” Does the Church have any teaching on attending these types of services?