Should I break off my engagement if I found pornography on his phone?

Hi, me and my fiance have been engaged for about 2 weeks now. We’ve been together for 10 months, and we have always been happy and never had any problems or arguments. 4 days after he proposed I was looking at his phone and I found he has been looking at pornography on the internet. When I confronted him about it he said he was sorry and he cut off internet on his phone…but I can’t seem to stop it from bothering me. What should we do now? Should I break off the engagement?

Dear friend,

Go very slow. If you don’t break off the engagement; at least postpone the wedding date indefinitely. The fact that such behavior is quite common these days, does not reduce the seriousness of the problem. Marriage does not solve the problem; it only accentuates it.
He needs to distance himself from the internet and come much closer to the Lord.

Professional counselling could help. Feel free to write me here privately by clicking on my name above. You both are in my prayers.

Fr. Vincent Serpa, O.P.

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