I’m struggling with a situation going on at my sister’s house. Though she is the oldest of six, she is least successful with her life. She is always struggling financially, never has a working car, but never has a job. Over the years, we’ve stopped jumping every time she cries for something. Her older son dropped out of high school in the 10th grade (after reapeating it twice). Her younger son failed the 7th grade.
Last year, we urged her to let the younder one live up here (we are 3 hrs north) at my brother’s house. Though we hoped he would stay the year, he chose to go home at Christmas. I will add that it’s not a decision a child should make, and my sister was not supportive either. I can understand… she rather have her “good” son at home.
I just got off the phone with my brother-in-law. He was arrested last night (apparently drunk and shooting a gun off). His older son apparently attacked my sister and she and my younger nephew got in a physical fight with him. The older one then stole their only car (one I had given them) and somehow wrecked it.
I asked how my sister was doing but she was sleeping. I asked how my younger nephew was as this kind of stuff has to be hard on him just getting ready to go back to school and my (drunk at 3pm) brother-in-law said he’d be fine.
My sister does nothing all day. Doesn’t work, doesn’t clean, etc… I’m quite sure she is depressed, though not treated.
My brother-in-law was complaining about not being able to be in a better position, so we went over his bills. Apparently, he takes home 2000 a month, has 1000 on bills, spends 700 on booze, cigs, and weed, and the rest is for food. Well DUH!!!
I’m so upset. I asked if my sister was drinking a lot and smoking pot as well an he said she drinks more so he won’t drink too much (she’s said that to me before).
I could go on with other ridiculous stories of what is going on in their house, but this time, for some reason, I just feel like this is the last straw. We were making great progress when my nephew moved up here for the fall semester, but16 weeks isn’t a lot of time. He needs to go well in school and see a different way to live (I’m not talking money - we’re not rich - I mean sober parents and a clean house).
I’m so worried for my nephew. I feel like my drunk brother-in-law and my do-nothing sister will just simply exist while my nephew will probably fall into bad grades again and be like his older brother.
If my brother and I offered to have our nephew live with my brother again, I don’t know that they’d go for it. I know one thing… I would not be dragging him down every other week for weekends so he can just hang out with his parents in their smoke-filled, roach infested trailer. I don’t want to hurt my sister’s feelings either, but I worry that there is more serious stuff going on there that my nephew should not be around.
Someone suggested calling DSS, but I don’t know much about them and what that would do.