Hi. So I have been going out with a Christian lady since November.
I like her very much, but there are problems:(
We have never actually called each other girlfriend/boyfriend, but I have written her a romantic love poem which she liked, given her gifts of perfume and chocolates and we seem to really enjoy each others company.
We have been out for coffee, a walk, to the cinema and a few lunches.
But, it’s all me doing the initiative at the moment.
I sent her a Valentines day card with a special CD with one song on it for her. I got an email from her saying that she really liked the CD and card - “it was really sweet” of me and she finished with xo. I asked her out today then for dinner this Saturday, but she replied that she already has plans - she is going to a concert.
I had asked her out on 5 February for dinner on Valentines Day and she finally replied on Friday 9th that it did not suit her as she already had plans that night!
The last time I saw her 10 days ago on a Saturday, it was only for an hour meeting over coffee. I had asked her that day if she would like to go on to see a film in the cinema I knew she wanted to see. But, she said she had things to do later that day.
She has said she is out with friends to the cinema this Friday, obviously Saturday is now out. Last weekend, she was at a Church event and this Saturday morning and afternoon, she is also at a Church event.
The last time I spoke with her was last Saturday evening. We had a really enjoyable chat and she apologised for neglecting me that week.
It does not bother me that she has an active social life - that’s great. What saddens me is that everytime I ask her out - she says sorry something else is on and then doesn’t make any effort to arrange something else.
I have thought of asking her out during a weeknight, but I’m embarassed to do that now, as the answer would probably be no.
Could I have some advice please?
I’m thinking of just ending this relationship.