OK, here’s the thing.
For some fourteen years I was away from the Church, even calling myself a non-Christian. During that time I entered a civil marriage with my oldest friend, also a fallen-away Catholic who no longer called himself Christian.
After four years of marriage (and the birth of a beautiful little boy), we divorced. Fast forward 18 months (2 years since the “I want a divorce” conversation).
My ex and I have been friends since for 28 years, since our childhood. And long story short, we’ve been talking about why our “marriage” failed. This sort of opening up has left me with a longing for a second chance with him. He is questioning as well.
I hide nothing of my faith from this man. We were both raised Catholic (12 years of Cathoilc school). He supports me in raising our son Catholic, buys him Christian toys (VeggieTales), and said a Catholic school would be his second choice of school for our son (his first choice is a pricey private school 19 miles from our home – Holy Trinity, here we come! )
I am a devout, practicing, CCC reading Catholic. He is a practicing Sufi.
Our first marriage was annulled due to lack of form, so this wouldn’t really be a reconciliation of a “marriage.”
I wouldn’t consider a romantic relationship with any other man who isn’t Catholic.
On the other hand, this man is the father of my child.
:shrug: As a Catholic woman, should I even be considering the possibility of reconciliation of “marriage” with this man? Am I just going out of my mind?
I have been offering up every little suffering, inconvenience, joy, thought, action, etc., for this man’s conversion. But I thought I was complete with any desire for or thought of a relationship with him. I’m used to being the strong, solid, both-feet-on-the-ground woman. This is challenging my sense of what I know.
(btw, I removed my profile from the singles sites since I am clearly not “available” in my mind and heart right now)