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I am leaving with my family on 4/17 to go on a family vacation and will be returning 4/24. I told my girlfriend that when I returned, I would hop in the car and drive the 100 miles to see her that evening, all day Sunday, and leave Monday morning and come to work. Then, that Friday, 4/30, she is coming to visit me for the weekend.
My mom says I should reconsider and not make the long drive when I return because I might be tired after the flight home from Arizona, plus 1.5 hours there and back again on Monday and back again on Friday might be a bit much.
What should I do? I'm 28, but suddenly can't make up my mind about this. I love being with my girlfriend, but we're not engaged. What are the limits of courtship? It will have been three weeks since we spent any real time together by the weekend of 4/24, other than we are meeting for dinner this coming Thursday halfway.
If you are not tired when you get back and you want to see her, then go. I personally do not find flying too be too strenuous of an activity and would be happy to get behind the wheel and drive. But that's just me. :D
You are correct though. You should be the one making up your mind whether to go or not, not your mother. (And it sounds like you want to...) As far as not being engaged... If she lived close by, would you think that it was okay to see her for two weekends in a row? Of course you would. Don't overthink it. If you don't mind the driving back and forth, it shouldn't matter to anyone else.
By the way, I don't think 1.5 hours of driving is too much to see someone you care about. I gladly drive 21/4 hours to pick up my daughter from school, drive home spend a long weekend then drive her back and drive home! It's not a big thing once you get used to it. (As long as I am not doing it every weekend that is!) :D
Enjoy your time together. Relax and don't worry about what other people think so much.