…and than I do. I had never heard of it before today, so count on most priests (assuming they’re keeping away from such stuff themselves) also not knowing about it, unless he had heard about it from other penitents as well. That’s probably why he didn’t probe with questions.
Circumstances are important, though. You engaged a young, vulnerable person – fantasy notwithstanding. Sin, and near occasion of greater sin, for you. Sin, and near occasion of greater sin, for her. We always need to confess such power differentials along with the action, because circumstances weigh the import of the sin (or the temptation) more or less heavily. And the more innocent the “partner,” the more necessary that is. I can understand why you didn’t mention it, but as another person said, I would do so next time. I don’t even know that the term RPG is relevant. The important thing is, you engaged in online sexual fantasy with a young, vulnerable stranger, being an accomplice to her sin. It’s serious for your soul and potentially serious for her present and future, practically and spiritually.
Had you told the priest (or us) that it was a chat room (if it was), that would have rung a bell more. I know what chat rooms are in the sexual department, having knowledge of a very well publicized case in my geographical area. In his case, the chat room addiction (which was yes, role play) led to trading photos of minors in compromised positions, which his online “partner” then in turn reported to the authorities. He is now serving a significant federal prison sentence, and his future is finished. When he started participating in the role-playng, no pictures were involved. It just escalated to that. Such is the nature of this kind of activity. One thrill or temptation is never enough: the boundaries widen. The Feds are getting more aggressive about prosecuting these kinds of activities when such boundaries are crossed.
Please stop this immediately. (I am more concerned with that than with the content of your confession.)