[quote="Rationalists, post:1, topic:296700"]
My best friend for about 6 years now has recently entered the seminary as he believes he has been called to do so (Which I do not understand because he has said he feels a bit on the fence about his decision now and he pokes fun at his decision). Problem for me is that I have strong feelings for him, which I previously could not express due to his decision, but now I'm starting to think maybe I should let him know how I feel. Would it be wrong for me to tell him I love him? Though he hasn't said anything since he can be very reserved, I'm the only woman he's ever had such a strong connection with, I always thought we'd be together. I feel so selfish having these feelings because I don't want to interfere with what might be his calling, but at the same time, I'm deeply in love, it's confusing. His brother and a few of my friends think I should tell him. But I need other opinions, should I or should I not tell him how I feel? My sadness is consuming me and it needs to end once and for all, I need to make a choice.
As a fellow woman I can understand your feelings, but first think to yourself if he really loved me he would have said so after all he did have six years to do so, does this in itself not say something to you plus you would have also said so before he entered, he obviously feels the call of the Lord which was stronger than staying with you ( sorry if this hurts but rejected love can hurt) and we always want what we cannot have, personally I would not get to heated with him or better still you can say it half joking well if it does not work out you know I like you an awful lot , but only you know and with time and prayer if this is what the Lord is calling you to, LET HIM GO, especially in your mind, let him decide his way in life, he has to find his way as you have to find yours, go with other guys, put him out of your mind, I am sure you have had other guys that you have fancied and have not fancied you, and the other way around, that is life , and you have put them out of your mind, the Lord will bless you in abundance for it. Pray to accept HIS Will for your friend and pray to Our Lady that you find your path and if its to be marriage to find you a nice Catholic guy. And to thank the Lord that you had such a nice friend for six years BE AT PEACE.