We live in a largely Hispanic community, and our neighbors across the street have become great friends to our kids. They also have four children, the youngest of which appears to be about four. Mom does not speak English, but most of the kids do (save the four year old who has not started school.) One of their sons was in the same class with my eldest DD when she was in public school. My son plays over there about three times a week. We also invited the kids over for my son’s birthday, and so they have been here but don’t play here often. I don’t know why. :shrug: Language barriers make is hard for me to ask. Maybe because I am huge pregnant and their mom is being kind?
Anyway, a few weeks ago they invited my two eldest over to what we thought was a birthday party for the youngest. We bought him gifts, etc. They had a jump house and the kids played late into the night – well past bedtime. Oh well, they had fun. When I went to go get my kids I noticed that Christian, the youngest had on all-white. The balloons all had crosses on them. I realized that this was actually a baptism party and NOT a birthday party. Oh darn! I was confused at first since he is four, but I know they probably waited for whatever their reason, cultural or otherwise.
So last night they had another party. For another child, a cousin is what I gathered. We had no idea so we didn’t buy a gift – nobody said anything until the kids came over to get my kids. My DD says it was the one year old’s birthday. Well she comes home with candy from a pinata, money that they throw out to the kids…and a BEAUTIFUL ceramic party favor that says the child’s name, the date and “Mi Bautizo” i.e. My Baptism.
Again, we didn’t buy a gift, and we don’t know this child. I can’t believe my DD took the favor, but she said there was a large basket-full of these favors for people to take. I am sure this kind of favor cost the family a fortune, and I don’t think we should have it. Again, we don’t KNOW the child. I think it was kind enough of them to let my kids play. I make wall hangings/shadow boxes in a Catholic theme, and I thought I would put one together for this little girl and bring the gift over regardless, but should I return the favor?
I don’t want to be insulting, but if Eden insulted them by taking the favor in the first place, should I bring it back? I wish I didn’t have this language barrier and have to have everything translated. This is not a situation my bad spanglish can handle.
What would you guys do? Bring back the favor so that someone in this small child’s family can rightfully have it? What if someone didn’t get one because my child took one? Culturally I am not sure about the etiquette on this one, so ANY help will be greatly appreciated especially from my hispanic brothers and sisters.