I am a convert to the Catholic faith. I was raised in a primarily Southern Baptist home but in college I became Catholic. That was almost 10 years ago. My parents were skeptical then but my mom told me then that she was okay with it because she "knew I was saved." I honestly think they thought it was just a phase I was going through and would eventually return to the baptist church.
Now I think my parents have pretty much figured out that it isn't a phase. My husband and I were married in the church 7 years ago and we attend mass as often as possible. My parents know that I will be in mass on Saturday night or Sunday morning, unless something beyond our control prevents it. They have asked enough questions that they know all of the myths they have heard about Catholics are not true (no we don't worship Mary - yes we believe Jesus is the Son of God - etc.) I think they have finally come to respect the fact that I am Catholic and have no intentions or desires to be baptist any more.
Here is the problem - and maybe it isn't a huge problem, but I find it troubling nonetheless.
Anytime there is something special going on at their church, they invite us to attend. Usually, if it doesn't conflict with work or something going on at our parish, we try to go with them when we are invited. Sometimes it's because it is something we actually do find interesting (like the time my Dad spoke about a trip he had recently made to Bulgaria to help put a roof on an orphanage), and sometimes (less often) it's just because we have nothing better to do at that time and go just because it's my parents and they asked (like the time we went to a special singing/fellowship thing they did with another church).
They aren't overbearing about it, and they don't insist that we go with them. They never invite us to something that they already know is a conflict (like they never invite us on a Sunday morning). But when we try to extend the same type of invitations, they NEVER go with us. Sometimes they truly do have other plans and I understand that...but sometimes they just "don't want to." Okay, that's fine. They don't have to accept our invitations. It bothers me some, but I try not to let it bother me a great deal. They are not Catholic so I can't really be upset with them for not wanting to go with us.
What bothers me is, I know that if I rejected their invitations as often as they reject ours (i.e. every time), they would be offended. Yet they don't see that it bothers me. Take this Christmas for example. Earlier in the week, they said they wanted to get together with just us and my brother and his girlfriend on Christmas Eve and spend the evening together. They wanted us all to go to their Christmas Eve service and then go to their house for festivities. When my Dad and I had this discussion, I said "and you can go to Midnight Mass with us too." He said "sure, we'll do it all."
Well I didn't see the harm in going to their service, so we did. All they did was sing a few songs, light some candles (that they never explained the significance of) and read the story of the Nativity from Luke's Gospel. Then we went to their house and had a good time but about an hour or so before we needed to leave for mass, several things were suggested that I replied with "I don't know that we have time to do that before church." At one point my dad even asked what time it started (at our parish, "midnight" mass is at 10pm), and I told him. Since the evidence was building that they had no intentions of going, but weren't going to come right and and say no, my husband blatantly asked. "Are you going with us?" My mom, who was closest to him at the moment, pretended not to hear his question. She was standing right in front of him and it was not too noisy for her to hear him, so I find it difficult to believe that she didn't. Of course you can all pretty well guess whether they went with us or not.
Since then nothing has been mentioned, but I am to the point where I definitely feel slighted. I have no desire to make a big deal out of this. Sure I would like for them to go with us on occasion, but I understand there may be conflicts where they can't. What upsets me is that they want us to go with them for special occasions, but are unwilling to do the same for us. Should I just let it go and try not to be offended? Should I refuse to attend any further special activities at their church? If I do that, I have no problem explaining why when I am asked, but I don't know if I should even be letting this bother me.