I have a dilemma here and I will ask my priest about it when I can but I wanted to know what everyone here thought.
I was in a “friends with benefits” situation while out of the church. When I came back to the church I asked him to put the sexual relationship on hold. He lives an hour’s drive from me so I continue to talk to him an hour a day at lunchtime on instant messenger as we have always done for 3 years. When I’m upset or having a horrible time he always responds with, “I’m sorry you’re having a bad day, what’s wrong?” and listens to me and offers support. He has been VERY supportive of my coming back to the Church and has never pushed me to resume the illicit part of our relationship. There even days when we spend the whole hour talking about the church and how I’m doing. He says he has never seen me this happy and so at peace.
Yesterday he said he would like to meet for drinks and lunch. I am not sure about this. Talking is one thing but meeting is another. I have urges/desires/cravings in this area that I struggle with repeatedly including personal impurity issues that I confess every couple of weeks. I am doing much better but I struggle with the temptations.
I appreciate any advice or comments anyone has as I have always gotten good holy advice from this community.