Should I tell a priest? Non-Catholic


#1

Hello. I’m currently going through the RCIA program. I believe there is truth in the catholic faith.

I’ve been using pornography since I was 12 years old on an almost daily basis. I’m 26 now.

I have read so many books and the bible. One of them being St Augustine’s Confessions. I feel armed with knowledge as to why this sin is wrong.

I know it’s negatively affecting by ability to love others and god. I feel like I die a little inside each time I commit this sin. It’s gotten to the point where I no longer feel guilty. I find it difficult to even turn to god or christ. I know it’s leading to spiritual death. I find it difficult to even care about salvation. My prayers are not heartfelt. I keep diving right back into this sin on an almost daily basis.

I feel like I need to tell someone, to hold me accountable. I’m eager to recieve the sacrament of reconciliation. But this is not an option as I’m not catholic yet.

I don’t know who to tell. Is it a good idea to try and schedule a time to talk with the priest?


#2

Yes, talk to the priest. Just because you can’t confess doesn’t mean you can’t talk to him in his office during a scheduled time to get some counseling. I am confident he will be able to help. And don’t be embarrassed; you are certainly not the first one to battle this.


#3

:thumbsup::thumbsup:


#4

And, do ask our holy and Blessed Mother to intercede for you. She is our Mother in the order of grace, and was given to all of us at the foot of the cross.

With the help of the grace of God you can beat this!


#5

Yes Schedule a talk with your priest. Please do not think of yourself as a “non-Catholic” at this point. Rather - you are a “catechist”. One who is on their way into the Church.

Also - I would like to offer the following that might help you.

I developed a “visual prayer”…After all, if we can “visualize” toward lust - why not “visualize” away from it…
So I prayed, “Father, take me to the foot of the cross”, and then began thinking, visualizing myself there. Gazing on the scene of the one who died for my sins.
Hot, dry, dusty day.
The foot of the cross buried in the ground.
The wood of the cross stained black from blood and sweat.
The feet of our Lord.
Filthy and stained and dripping blood and sweat.
I did this - I put Him there - Not alone - but I helped.
Every time I sin, it is increases His pain.
If I refrain, it eases His pain.
Feel the heat of that day, the dryness of the air.
How thirsty He is…
…and so on…

How could I possibly sin while standing at the foot of the cross.

As a corollary to the idea of our sin putting Him there, consider how his cross is the accumulation of our sins. Each time we sin, the cross gets heavier…Each time we resist sin, the cross gets lighter.

Practice this form of prayer and I believe it will be of help and encouragement to you.

Peace
James


#6

You can speak to the priest even if you can’t confess.

Note also that when you reach a certain point in RCIA (which you probably haven’t yet), you will be able to confess. Ask your priest about this.


#7

I agree with the prior advice on seeing a priest. :yup:

I would ask the priest too to help you discern when and if this is a mortal sin and about how to try to make a perfect contrition.

You may need counseling to ditch this bad habit since you’ve been at it for almost half your life.

I would also encourage you to pray the rosary daily and go to daily Mass (even though you may not have Communion). :thumbsup:


#8

Nor will you be the last. Personally, I have always found it easier to talk face-to-face with the priest, even for confession, as this allows both parties to be able to gauge facial expressions and I seem to receive better advice this way.


#9

Same here


#10

Please talk to your Priest. It will be the best thing to do. I’ve struggled and still struggle with pornography. I go to confession too many times to count. My parish Priest has been nothing but supportive in helping me kick this bad habit. I’ll be praying for you brother.


#11

:thumbsup:Remarkably profound (IMO).
Mt. 12:43-45 came to mind. A way to combat the danger described in that passage.

Since the mind & imagination will not stay empty, do you think it would be helpful to have religious paintings/holy cards to help with visualization? (Religious movies/videos also?)


#12

:thumbsup:


#13

I would definitely go see the priest. When I was coming back to the Church I would often go to Reconciliation and even though I could not receive the sacrament because my marriage was not yet convalidated, I believe I received some grace. Spiritual direction in general is a tool that helps us grow spiritually and gives us perspective. The road to God is not easy and takes a lot of patience and struggle. I still battle with sexual sin and general despair. But I have also come a long way in the past 1.5 years (see my first post ever). Know that you are on the right path. Don’t beat yourself up and never quit trying to eradicate porn from your life.


#14

Perhaps Catechumen in the better word…


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