I’ve come to share the story of my life :rolleyes:
Long story short, I’m roughly 47 days away from giving birth to a BEAUTIFUL baby boy whom I am already madly in love with. :love:
Unfortunately I am not married but this pregnancy has been a blessing in that it help separate me from a not-so-nice situation. AND brought me closer to Jesus :extrahappy:
It appears as if the father of this child does not have interest in being in his life. We haven’t spoken in roughly two months. However I just recently in the past week tried to get a hold of him because I need information from him so our son can have health insurance. The father refuses to speak to me.
I spoke to his mom last night 'cause I was trying to call him at home. He wasn’t in so she said she would let him know that I called.
I realized after speaking to her that she still doesn’t know that I am pregnant.
So FINALLY my question is, should I let her know that she has a grandson on the way?
I’m kinda torn (been torn actually) about this whole dilemna. I don’t want to start drama, shoot, i am DONE with drama. But I mean, this child is her grandson. And this lady is my child’s grandmother. It just doesn’t seem right to keep this hush hush.
But then again, I’m worried about possible outcomes of me telling her. Earlier on in the pregnancy when me and the child’s father were talking (and trying to work on a co-parenting plan…well at least I was trying…), he kept putting it off saying things like “i will tell her when I have a job…” He was worried about her possibly kicking him out of the house or something to that effect. If something major like that were to happen, I worry it might push him over the edge and make him do something drastic (either to himself or someone else, like me )…He’s never physically harmed me before, and he wont come to my house cause he’s afraid of my parents (Daddy especially :p), but I mean keep in mind this guy ain’t very emotionally stable…
Or it could be extreme in another sense. His mom and sister may try and bully him into sticking around. The LAST thing I want is for him to be involved in our son’s life just because he feels pressured to. Our son deserves better than that. Any child deserves wayy more than that. Again, the pressure may cause him to “act out” and cause a lot of grief
All I want to do is make the best choices that I can for my baby boy. I kinda sense that God may be trying to tell me something. Liike, maybe I should let it be and move on with my life. But I second-guess myself soo I don’t know if my mind is just making that up or if the Holy Spirit is really prompting me. All I know is that I should be patient and act slowly.
Do any of you have practical advice to give??
(Oh and as a side note, I want you guys to know that I am praying for you all. I keep seeing WAYY too many sad & scary threads. You all deserve to live much happier and fulfilling lives. Remember that Jesus is always by your side :))