I went out for dinner with a girl on Friday 18 May and it went really well. We enjoyed each others company and the next day she invited me out to a Christian event where we spent the day together. During that week, we had talked on the phone 5 days out of 7. We never ran out of things to discuss and often talked for more than 30minutes.
The following Wednesday 23rd, she invited me out for coffee and picked me up after work. This was also enjoyable and she accepted an invitation to go and see Pirates 3 on Saturday 26 May.
She invited me to pick her up at her house where I met some of her family before going to the cinema. After the cinema, she asked me back for coffee and we chatted until after 1am. I suggested going a few times, but she wanted me to stay and chat.
On Sunday, I asked if we could chat on the phone and she suggested after midnight as she was with friends earlier. We chatted on the phone for 50 minutes. As usual, we talked about both silly things and serious things.
A few minutes after finishing our chat, she texted me to say that she had thought about things and only wanted to be friends. She surprised me given how much we seemed to enjoy each others company. I texted her back and said I would think about things and let her know.
So, I texted her on Monday night and said that I was surprised about things as we seemed to get on so well together. I thought that something special was developing between us. I said that it would be difficult for me to just be friends and so it would probably be better not to see each other again, but I wished her every happiness for the future.
This evening, she texted me and said that it was a shame we could not be friends, but wished me the best. She said “its not u but me. I really hurt my ex without meaning 2 and have learnt from that which is why i thought it best to not take things further. Thanks for understanding and Im sorry”.
So, after all that, what do you think? Should I contact her again and ask to continue seeing her etc? Or do you think I should just leave things alone?
I care very much for this girl. However, I am neither infatuated nor in love with her but I did think something special was developing between us. We had a lot of fun together and enjoyed each others company. So, I’m at a bit of a loss as to why it suddenly ended - with a text message 10 minutes after another good conversation.
I accept of course that a girl may not like me romantically and if it is over (which it appears to be) then I can accept that also, but I’m mindful of the phrase of “faint heart never won a lady” and as you might be able to tell, I am very confused…so.