Last February I became engaged and immediately asked my two younger sisters to stand up in our January, 2005 wedding.
Unfortunately, my 18 year old sister has since fallen away; in May she moved in with her boyfriend secretly. In June, she told us that she was pregnant.
I don’t know if I want her to stand up in the wedding anymore. She will be 8.5 months pregnant on our wedding day, which raises a plethora of practical concerns regarding standing up in the wedding. I also have moral issues with asking her to stand up in my wedding when her lifestyle is a complete contradiction to what I believe marriage is. Are these sorts of concerns justified? Or am I being overly self-righteous?
Another concern is asking non-Catholics to stand up in a Catholic wedding. Is this okay?