[quote=Mom of one]**Having more of a close up look at foster care than I ever dreamed, I’d have to say “Why can’t singles adopt in the meantime?” Changing the system and society would take YEARS and kids are having to deal with the rejection of not being wanted because they have medical needs, dealing with being taken away from their wacky parents and being put in a foster home(or 2 or 3 or more), or dealing with being raised in an orphanage in a foreign country with little resources NOW. **
**And even if the system and society changed, how many people would be willing to adopt the special needs child or the bi-racial child? Many who are looking to adopt want healthy babies that “look like us”. **
The only experience we have with adoption in our family is that of my aunt, a single mom. She is one of the most generous, kind-hearted women I have ever met. She is a teacher that was left by her husband (and even though she isn’t Catholic, she still considers him her husband despite the fact that he started a new life with another woman). Anyways, she is a foster mom for children that come and go (when they are taken away from their parents temporarily, etc.). She was once taking care of a little baby that had fetal alcohol syndrome. His parents were a mess and his other siblings were being taken care of by other family members, but no one wanted to have to take care of this baby because of his defects and all the medical attention and care he needed. He was waaaaaay behind developmentally, but with the help and support of my aunt, started catching up and gained a decent amount of weight. He needed tons of different medical treatments and surgery (he had everything from a cleft palate, to problems with his spinal cord due to his mom’s ingestion of alcohol and drugs all thru her pregnancy). Well, to make a long story a little shorter, my aunt ended up adopting this little baby and has served as a much needed source of comfort and stability throughout all his surgeries etc. His life has had a 180 degree turn ever since he was put in the care of my aunt. Its an open adoption so the mom and dad can see him etc, but my aunt is his legal guardian. I can’t imagine what his life would be like if my aunt would not have been able to adopt him.
So, with that said, I would have to say that although it would be ideal for all children to be adopted by couples, there are cases when single parents would be good too. I just hope they investigate them well to avoid problems eg with men adopting little girls etc. I don’t agree with homosexuals adopting, coupled up or not.