[quote="sydney28, post:1, topic:183144"]
I am convinced that my marriage is not sacramental. My husband and I have been separated for several months. I have every intention of filing for divorce and then petitioning for an annulment.
There is a Retrouvaille retreat this weekend in our town and neither my husband nor I want to attend, but a small part of me is just curious about going since I have heard about all these remarkable success stories.
The thing is, I've noticed that in all the success stories I've read, there was at least one of the spouses who was very committed to wanting to make the marriage work, and that scenario does not describe our situation. So is it pointless for us to attend?
I just finished a Retrouvaille retreat. You don't have to be "committed to wanting to make the marriage work" to benefit from it. You just need to be committed to learn how to communicate with your spouse better.
Maybe your end goal is to make the divorce go smoothly. Maybe your end goal is to gain a deeper understanding of what derailed your relationship (even if you think you already know, you can explore it deeper). Going to Retrouvaille will either improve the relationship you are in, or improve your chances at being in a successful relationship in the future.
Of course, it'd be BEST if you went into it wanting to save your marriage, but it wouldn't be a waste of time if that wasn't your real goal.
The only warning is you must be willing to "just go with it." Dive into the process and trust that it has worked for hundreds of people and it might work for you, no matter how skeptical you feel at times.