(I will not answer any objection if you had not read all this first, carefully)
Since theologians do not give a proper answer to this statement, but have to go changing the meaning of the Greek verb to hate (miseo μισεῶ ) I decided to give an answer. AND THE ANSWER IS NO
“Whoever comes to me and does not **hate **father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, cannot be my disciple. Lk 14:26
But then we are told again by Jesus in another place:
“All **who hate **a brother or sister are murderers, and you know that murderers do not have eternal life abiding in them.” 1 Jn 3:15
“Those who say, “I love God,” and **hate **their brothers or sisters, are liars” 1 Jn 4:20
“Honor your father and your mother, and, You shall** love **your neighbor as yourself.” Mt 19:19
“For no one ever hates his own body” Ephesians 5:29
**Here there are no contractions to the first statement, which is true: we should hate our family members, ups! **
But in which way we are to hate them if we just read all the other quotes which will seem to be contradictory.
**Here is the clue: **
“And this is the judgment, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil.” Jn 3:19
Let us see more on evil deeds:
" 6 But this you have, that you hate the deeds of the Nicolaitans, which I also hate." Rev 2:6 (for our purposes does not matter who were the Nicolaitans neither what they were doing, it is enough for us that they were doing evil so that Christ hated their deeds)
“You have loved righteousness and** hated wickedness**.” Heb 1:9
“Let love be genuine;** hate what is evil**, hold fast to what is good.” Rm 12:9
Then we can read the parallel passage in Matthew:
34 “Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword.
35 For I have come to set a man against his father,
and a daughter against her mother,
and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law;
36** and one’s enemies will be members of one’s own household**.
37 Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; 38 and whoever does not take up the cross and follow me is not worthy of me. 39 Those who find their life will lose it, and those who lose their life for my sake will find it.Mt 10:34-39
Therefore if any of our family members lives an immoral life and we do not tell them nicely, with love, that they are doing wrong, so that they may change (or at least acknowledge that we do not approve), we love more our family than Christ. We are excusing their evil deeds and not hating these deeds.
The same with ourselves: if we do not hate our deeds when they are evil, as to stop doing them, we do not love Christ more than our own selves. And in this case we ought to change ourselves first before we are correcting others.
We know that God says:
“Those whom I love,** I reprove and chasten**; so be zealous and repent” Ap 3:19
Let us see why people hated Jesus:
“The world cannot hate you, but it hates me because I testify against it, that its deeds are evil.” Jan 7:7
Therefore that is why the members of our own families will be our enemies (pray to God that may not be so, that they all are loving God in spirit and in truth)
Therefore Jesus said:
"For** whoever does the will of my Father** in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.” Mt 12:20
If you are interested tomorrow I will open another thread to answer this: “What is the will of God”
This is my first thread and I really do not know if I kept to the rules, please let me know.
In the love of Christ and His teachings,