Depends what the wishes are.
When dh was in the hospital, he requested I tell NO ONE, not even his parents. I honored his request for about a week. When it was becoming very clear to me that he was not going to improve, I told dh that I was going to tell his parents. He went ballistic in the hospital. He informed me I was to do no such thing, and only after he had died was I to tell them. What was the right thing to do there?
Next he told me he wanted to be buried in only the best - the highest quality casket, the best vault, everything.
When he died, we were $50k in debt. Yes, he had life insurance, but I have a house and 3 kids, 2 of whom are in college now. Did it make sense to buy the best most expensive casket and vault?
What would you have done?