[quote="sistermouse, post:4, topic:253580"]
I would have given him a decent, but inexpensive funeral and managed the remainder of the policy so that I could have done the most good for my family. The only one that benifits from "the best" is the funeral home. As for his family, he was still alive and still had the choice not to let them know. I would have called as soon as possible after his death.
Sorry you had to made such tough choices at such a difficult time.
He had a basic casket and a plain liner - cheapest one, in fact. I figured it was going in the ground, so why spend thousands on it. :shrug:
Also, my MIL and I have always had a great relationship, and there was no way I was going to jeopardize that over DH's request HIS OWN MOTHER not be notified he was dying! I put myself in her shoes and asked myself if I would want to spend any remaining time with my son, and there was no question that his parents had every right to know he was dying. I cannot imagine how devastating it would have been to his parents to not have been told he was in the hospital for 1 month, laying dying, and not know. I imagine they would no longer be speaking to me or my children. They are wonderful people (always have been), so I felt the request was irrational.
[quote="Jim_Dandy, post:7, topic:253580"]
I think notification in the obituary of the newspaper is a legal requirement.
No, it is not. It is a great way for the newspaper to make money, though, because it is very expensive.