I am not a super traditionalist myself: I loved being an Altar Girl when I was young (still miss it sometimes....), I don't mind guitar at Mass, I always go to the Ordinary Form, and I have no problem with non-habited Sisters, the vast majority of which have always seemed devout and loving both. I grew up in Vatican II so that is all normal to me, and until this year I had no idea that other people felt differently (enough to cause schism in some cases...). When I heard people talk about "liberal nuns" I generally thought they meant someone like me. Maybe she is a little more the 'guitar-Mass' type, maybe the type of person who emphasizes love over judgement, but is still just as faithful as anyone else! Anything beyond that is just those super traditionalists overreacting. :p Pro-choice Sister? No way! How can you make such serious lifelong vows to a religion you don't even believe in?
But recently I did meet that type of Sister (pro-gay marriage, and very aggressive too). I was not angry, just VERY confused and a little concerned about her faith in general (as I would be if any Catholic said those type of things), but I didn't know what to say to her. :( I still don't. When talking with family and friends I can usually keep things light and just say "well no this is what the church says and why", and so even if we don't come to an agreement I can at least comfort myself in the fact that I might have helped plant that seed of understanding....but I was a guest there, I didn't know her that well, so instead I just sort of stayed quiet. All the other Sisters were all very amazing and inspirational people, and I loved praying with them and their mission....but there was still a weird shadow on my heart. I felt uneasy and guilty for feeling uneasy. Hopefully I never have to face this type of situation again...but what is it that I should have done there? Anyone else?