This post is for very serious Catholics only, who have strong opinions about marrying other Catholics only. If you do not fall into this category, then this thread is not for you.
There is this blog that I visit, and it addresses the situation of people who are single and who do not wish to be, and feel a sense of suffering about it.
I think that the blog is aimed at women, though men are not excluded from the target audience per se.
The author of the blog addresses the problem (though I have not been to Church, really - I am speaking secondhand) of a lopsided ratio of women to men in churches - that is, a lot more women than men, and the problem of women wondering where they may meet their men.
The author of the blog makes a suggestion that I am wondering your opinion on. She suggests that we should consider the idea of finding a man outside church circles. Now before you think this means that she implies finding a man outside the boundaries of YOUR particular church, she is rather suggesting resorting to finding a man even IF he does not attend any church at all for whatever reason. Not only that, she is suggesting that even if the man is a nominal believer, that this offers great potential for the woman to offer spiritual encouragement to the man, in the hopes that maybe all he needs is a “little help” to get back on track with God, etc. That denominations are not important when it comes to marriage, etc. Well as someone who is seriously considering Catholicism and eventually converting one day, I seriously beg to differ. But somehow I don’t know how to express WHY it matters (I’m not always good with words).
I had been frequenting that blog for some time but I can’t figure out the right words to comment on it, because it seems that since in Catholic culture, attendance at Church is a pivotal aspect of it, and the lack of attendance constitutes a mortal sin, it is not a light issue as to whether the prospective spouse (man or woman) goes to Church. It is a lifeblood of Catholic living is it not?
Note: I am not saying that just because someone goes to Church, it makes them “better” as people but don’t we have to consider, that, if we want to marry a Catholic, whether or not Mass attendance is a priority in their life?