I’ve been lurking around the forums for a while now – it’s a great place – but I haven’t until recently found the need to register.
Well now I could really use some advice.
Earlier this evening my sister sat the family down in the living room and said she had something important to share with us. I thought maybe she was going to say that she was a lesbian, but she said that she is transgender. That she feels like she is really a man and she wants us to know that because she loves us and wants us to be a part of her life.
I don’t really know what to do. On the one hand, she’s my sister – or I guess my brother now. And we were really close growing up, considering we’re only a year apart. So of course I love her and I want the best for her. I just don’t really know what to do.
Our dad didn’t say much of anything, and you can tell he’s been thinking on this all evening. My mom started crying and gave Stephanie (er, Eric, as he’d prefer to be called) a big hug.
I mean, I don’t know too much about what the Church has to say on this matter – it’s not something that really comes up too often – but he said that the Church says that taking hormones and getting surgery like he wants to do is a mortal sin. And I don’t want him to sin, of course. I also don’t want him to suffer, and he says he’s been in a lot of pain a long time because of this.
I don’t really understand her/his feelings or thoughts, but brother or sister she’s still my sibling and I want to help her in what’s clearly a difficult time.
So… what’s the proper Catholic thing to do here? Any advice would definitely be welcome.