Hello everyone. Ordinarily I’m not keen on bringing such personal things into an online forum, but at the moment I’m abroad and away from my friends, who I would ordinarily swing things by. My head is spinning a little and I would really appreciate hearing what other Catholics have to say in response to this situation, as it’s a little bizarre to me.
Basically, my SO and I have been going out for a decent while. We’re both practicing Catholics. My lady friend…although she would be very orthodox, sadly, she does have something of a negative association with some parts of the faith due to coming from a rather strict family. We would have some disagreements, as every two people do, but nothing that had proven to be a real breaking point.
Last night, however, she revealed that she isn’t against abortion in all circumstances. She acknowledges that abortion is in fact killing an actual, living child but maintains that it could be acceptable in circumstances - such as ectopic pregnancies, cases of rape etc and that all women should have the legal choice.
This really shook me the wrong way because she wasn’t familiar with the principle of double effect and wasn’t making a comment on that, and unlike other people she isn’t ignorant as to what an abortion really is and fully acknowledges that it’s a human life. She’s quite intelligent, but because this came from such a different angle I decided to press her on it from that angle. I asked if this principle would apply to everyone including children outside of the womb and she said yes. I asked (disregarding principle of double effect) if she would, for instance, agree that a 4 year old child could be killed if it met her criteria. She said yes - if both an adult and a 4 year old child were going to die for some reason and the only way of saving the adult was to directly kill the child, that it would be morally good.
I’ve never encountered anyone who holds this position so consistently. After 1.5 years this is the last thing I expected to hear coming from her… or really anyone, to be honest.
We’ll have the opportunity shortly to discuss in depth over a very long car ride… but I wanted to hear some commentary on this from other Catholics because…well, I can’t really process this and my mind is a bit numbed.