[quote="gmarie21, post:1, topic:184235"]
My sil is seriously a near occasion of sin for me. I feel always on the defensive with her. The reality is that I'm sad that we don't have a decent relationship. She'll be polite in person when her husband is around, but over email and such, she really takes some serious jabs, personal ones. Her sister and mother have also done the same thing to me. There can be an issue discussed, and I was always taught to attack the issue, not the person. I cannot say how many times I've been accused of being judgmental, lacking compassion, etc. just because I don't agree with her (she's a pro-women's ordination, pro-gay marriage, etc. Catholic who works with Catholic youth). But I never say comments like "you" this or "you" that. And then I wonder if I should say something to the pastor where she works, but I don't know what she teaches the kids and I don't know if it's solely out of wanting to protect them or getting back at her, aka, my intentions wouldn't be 100% pure, though I do worry about what she teaches the kids.
I told my husband last night that I will not be going to their house (it's his side of the family) b/c I do not feel welcomed there.
I know not everyone here has perfect families, has anyone had to just avoid and/or cut off family due to them being a near occasion of sin?
I understand your pain. It is difficult to get along with people in our families sometimes...especially in laws.
I would just be an example to her in how you live and she'll figure it out. I would NOT stop visiting her, as that is not fair to your husband who you love. Besides, how can she see your wonderful example if you're not around her?
Regarding telling her boss, I would not. You do not know what she is teaching those kids. For example, my sister in law thinks I am a bad Catholic, but I know I am not. I strayed from the Catholic Church for a while, and really missed it. I am not the type of person to talk with her in depth about this, first becuase it's really a personal issue to me, and second, we aren't that close. I love the Catholic Church, missed the sacraments, and feel so lucky to be HOME again. I teach very orthodox to the children. That said, my sister in law may not know I've changed my views, and I would be DEVESTATED if she took it upon herself to call my boss. ALso, I know she would lose the respect of every single person in our family. I would hate to see that happen to you.
I will pray for you. Hopefully you two will come together in your relationship, at least enough for your husband to have harmony in his family.