I opened a thread in another section regarding this issue (forums.catholic.com/showthread.php?p=13887804#post13887804), but i want specifically also advice regarding the correct course of action in light of the teaching and law of the Church (and do not be shy to apply literal reading of anything relevant, so please no rose colored “following the letter of the law is too mean”-stuff, hit my with any applicable obscure rules and laws, however uncharitable this may be; for encouragement the other thread should suffice):
Wife (protestant, but mostly on paper) and Husband (catholic, lapsed at age 16, humbly returned at about 35) settled the issue of baptizing, teaching and going to church regarding children with a “husband can take children to mass, if they want, wife is free to inform them about everything wrong with organized church, especially catholic church; no one gets baptized unless they themselves want it”-truce.
11-year old daughter requests to be baptized protestant.
May husband encourage daughter? (pro: a glass half full is lot better than an empty glass; contra: encouraging daughter to join schismatical protestants is sinful)
May husband organize the matter, e.g. contacting respective protestant minister, bring daughter to whatever “join courses” they might have, etc.? (pro: see above; contra: see above)
May husband accompany daughter to protestant service (of course not eating bread there)? (pro: see above; contra: taking daughter to protestant service is opposite to teaching and raising her in catholic faith, and having to attend protestant service due to daughter is no excuse to miss mass, which of course has an increased risk with added sunday schedule)
May husband limit discussions, teaching and prayer of/with daughter to ecunemically non-sensitive topics? (pro: see above; contra: promise to raise children in catholic faith could be compriomised) or is there some mild obligation for unregular reminders about what is even better with catholicism?
Any other potential collision with Church law/teaching?