I am have a question. I have been going to the same confessor for almost a year. He is a holy man, gives good spiritual advice, and is also my parish priest. I am curious if it is a sin to go somewhere else for confession if I don’t want him to know about particular sin?
I abuse alcohol, and have gone long periods of abstaining-but recently slipped. I confessed it, and He was shocked to find out I had a drinking problem, and our relationship has been akward and strained since he found out. I was helping in some church ministries-I suspect he is concerned about me being in any kind of ministry now that he knows I have this issue.
Well-I slipped again-need the grace of the sacrament, as it has been almost 6 weeks since I have gone…but am very uncomfortable confessing this. Is it a sin to go to “the priest down the street” to avoid my pastor? I know the grace of the sacrament is valid no matter where I go-I was just wondering if the “intent” behind going elsewhere is to conceal something from my regular confessor and this is compounding the sin? We are not in a spiritual director/directee relationship.
Your comments are welcome.