This is pure curiosity. I’m not currently in a vocation, and when I do discern my vocation I absolutely intend to follow it for life. I do not see any circumstance which could cause me to leave a vocation once it is discerned. I am also not interested in dating anyone, much less a nun/sister (of course not a priest, I’m a guy.) As far as I know, none of the priests, brothers or sisters I know are in this conundrum. However, I am a fairly new Catholic who has seen a lot of Hollywood portrayals of the church and Catholics in general, so I wanted to clarify something:
On television and in movies, there is a somewhat common plotline of a person falling in love with a priest or a nun, and then their Catholic parents saying, “You can’t do that. If he leave the priesthood (she leaves the convent) for you it’s a mortal sin for both of you.” Is that true? Would both of them be committing a mortal sin? I understand that it is something which happens. Are these people committing a mortal sin? Is there hope of redemption for them? I suppose that mortal sin or not, I should include people in that difficult situation in my prayers. What about a monastic brother?
I hope that this is the correct subforum in which to ask and that this was asked respectfully enough. It is a serious question, even though I do not ever foresee a way for it to affect me directly (unless I have a good friend who ends up in that situation.) I apologize if this is a “well duh” question, but please remember that I am a new Catholic and I know that Hollywood isn’t a good place to seek information on the theology of the church.