[quote="dividus, post:15, topic:337852"]
Thanks for all your replies and I wasn’t aware that there were other threads dealing with the subject. The strange thing with me is that as a boy I must have been a reasonably good singer as I was selected to sing in the church choir, and used to sing on feast days.
I recall on one occasion trying to hide in order to avoid singing, but the teacher in charge of the choir searched me out and demanded to know “who sacked (fired) you?”!
My singing voice these days – to my ear,at any rate - just amounts to a sort of strangled groan and my range is very limited.
I play piano for Masses (and I'm trying to learn organ, but after 2 years, I'm still not at a point where I can play hymns on the organ).
Here's what you can do.
First, even if you're not singing, please open the hymnal or missalette and follow along with the words. That says a lot about your reverent attitude. Even if you're not willing to sing the words of the prayers (hymns), at least say them in your mind and think about them.
A lot of people don't do that, and it's so discouraging for me to see this as I sit at the piano and give it my all. I have to wonder why some of these people say "I hate the hymns" when they aren't even reading the words. How do they know that they hate them? And isn't it possible that a hymn that meant nothing to you in the past might speak to your heart and soul now?
Second, try hard to keep your expression either neutral or pleasant. I realize that some people have a natural scowl when they relax their facial muscles. This can appear to be disdain or disapproval. So if you can do so without pain, try to look pleasant. Let your eyes sperkle with love for God and your fellow man.
Third, if you're really sitting next to people who you think sing well, tell them so after Mass. Tell them that you really enjoy hearing them sing the hymns and that it helps you to worship God. That way, even if you aren't singing, others will think kindly of you and recognize your inner reverence.
Hope this helps! I think it's nice that you ask!