I’ve been reading a lot of these threads on being single, and one thing they’ve got me thinking about is socialization. A common theme in the advice given is to basically “get out there and meet people and generally socialize, and even if nothing comes of it immediately you’re out there and socializing” or something along those lines (though usually better worded than that ^^). Before I get into it, I’m a 21 yr old female (these things seem to work better when people know your gender and general age. Responses may be skewed if you think I’m a 35 year old male :p). My silly little problem is that I can’t find people to socialize with -- . This leads to two different questions:
1) Seriously, where do single Catholics socialize? People mention youth groups on this site, but the only youth groups I’ve ever heard of (and I looked in my diocese once I saw them mentioned here) was for actual ages 8-18 youth, so that can’t be right People must be talking about something else. I’ve also seen “at church events” as a suggestion. For this, I wonder if it’s just my parish that has a grand total of 5 unmarried adults, and then, if they do make it to Sunday mass, they dive out straight after communion and never attend anything. So I end up socializing with the grandmothers, which is really nice, to a point. The age difference hinders a lot of things, though. And I’m in university so you’d think I could find Catholics nearer to my age there. I did. I made a lot of friends and acquaintances through the university's Catholic group, and it was ok for a year or two…until they all paired up or went on mission :p. So I’m on the lookout for Catholic singles to socialize with, but I really don’t know where to look. I’m not necessarily talking about “socializing with the intent of finding a spouse” or anything, but it’d be nice to find fellowship with Catholics around my age in the same boat as me. I separated single friends from married friends in here mostly because I’m a person with almost all married/engaged/long-term-dating-and-everyone’s-just-waiting-for-him-to-ask-her friends and minimal single friends. When there’s that much of an imbalance, you notice the difference in the way they a) look at things, and b) spend their time. So, point: clarification on ideas for where to find Catholic singles to socialize with.
2) How can a single girl still socialize with her married friends? Last summer there were 6 weddings for early-to-mid-20s Catholic couples I know, and suddenly all those female friends disappeared into couples nights and mommy groups. I still love them, but it’s near impossible to work out a time to visit with them, and it seems like I can’t relate to them at all. :( I’d like to not lose all my friends to marriage, but I don’t know how to overcome the sudden difference in lifestyles. Any ideas?