Hi! I’m 47 and I’ve never been married. I grew up in a Baptist church where everyone was extremely social. I went through the RCIA class 15 years ago in California (where there were a lot of Catholics) and I was so happy with my conversion to the Catholic church. Then I immediately moved to the south where Catholics are a minority.
I haven’t been able to connect with other Catholics at all. I don’t have any Catholic friends. I’ve never even been to a Catholic wedding, and I’ve given up hope that I will ever have a date with a Catholic man. I know only two or three single Catholic men in the area, and they have all been quite clear that they are NOT interested in socializing. I’ve tried Catholic online dating sites, which were extremely disappointing, to say the least.
I have to laugh, because e-harmony “matched” me up with one of these guys, but every time he sees me, he runs away! I know these guys are looking, because I see their profiles on dating sites, but apparently they’re quite skittish in real life!
The parish I go to is connected to a school, and everyone seems to ignore my existence. Every time I’ve volunteered for anything, I’ve been ignored. Nobody ever calls. I broke my ankles about 7 months ago, and when I e-mailed people from the church about it, nobody responded or asked me if I needed anything. The Catholics here seem so cold and unfriendly. My mom was interested in converting, but she was so turned off by the cold atmosphere, that she won’t even consider joining the church now.
Sometimes I go to social events at other churches with my Protestant friends, just so I won’t be completely isolated from people! I get so envious of my friends who go to churches where the members are loving and kind to them. My sister has a son who has muscular dystrophy, and she needed a ramp built for his wheel chair. It was the Methodist church who came over and built it for her. Any time my family needs help, it’s always the Protestant churches who come through for us.
My family is so disgusted with the Catholic church here that they keep trying to convince me to leave the church and go to a Protestant one.
I’m very frustrated. I have struggled at times with wanting to leave the Catholic church out of sheer loneliness, but I do believe that God wants me to remain Catholic.
I’m so lonely going to Mass here. Nobody will greet me or sit by me. It’s like I’m invisible! If I try to talk to the priest about it, I get a lecture about how “The Catholic church is not a social club!”
Would really like prayers about this! I don’t have the money to move anywhere else. Thanks!