I know some men are called to the Permanent Diaconate later in life, after their marriage, but is it also possible to feel called beforehand? If a man told you he felt called to be a Deacon (not that he felt torn between marriage and Priesthood, just that he felt called to be a Deacon), would that make or break the deal for you?
I like the Eastern Church’s stance on this, where being the wife of a Priest or Deacon is seen as a vocation in its’ own right (it’s also the way many protestants see their clergy wives, and there are some saints in the early Church who were priests’ wives). Surely a woman who married a man knowing he was aiming for the Diaconate would be better prepared to support him in the sacrifices that office calls for. Are there any women who really feel that their call is to be by the side of their husband in the Diaconate?
This is partly a discussion point and partly a personal ad (not really, I’m kinda ‘discerning’ with someone already, but I’m curious how to broach the subject with her.)